Pommy Mommy of the Week: Monique Cohn

By on July 21, 2014

Seven years ago I lost the love of my life and my first pom, Spice. She was only 8 years old. I had taken her to an orthopedic surgeon who was recommended to me by my vet to repair a herniated disc in her back that left her debilitated.  The surgeon assured me the procedure was a routine, safe and highly successful surgery that would allow her to walk again. Unfortunately, she had a stroke coming out of anesthesia and subsequently died three days later.

I was completely heartbroken over the loss of my dear Spice girl. I was so upset and angry with the surgeon for not fully explaining the serious potential complications of the surgery. I was even more angry with myself… being a physician, I should have known better that any surgery can have a potentially fatal outcome.

I cried for months and still to this day have not been able to completely get over the feelings of guilt I have for making this terrible decision. I vowed I would never get another dog… never. I just knew I could not deal with the end of life situation that we all as pet owners have to ultimately deal with. So five years passed by and although every time I would see a pom on the street, on TV or in a magazine… I would think maybe I should try again a horrible feeling came over me. I would think back to those last few terrible days with Spice when I had her at home with me after she had her stroke… so sick… in such pain… and I knew I just couldn’t.

ginger-purple-flowersFor those five years, I knew my life was missing something and could only be filled with the love of a dog and for me it’s always been a Pomeranian. Many people ask me why I like Poms. Especially, my Ginger who is so tiny. She weighs a whopping 4 1/2 pounds! They say “why don’t you get a real dog?” To me nothing is more real than a dog who can be with you 24/7 and live their entire life together with you.

Unlike a large dog that you have to leave at home a lot of the time, a small dog like Ginger can go everywhere with you. And Ginger does go EVERYWHERE with me! We go to work together, we go shopping together, we go out to our lake house in the summer to go boating, jet skiing and kayaking together. In the morning, before anyone else in the house is awake we go out on the dock and watch the sunrise together. In the late afternoon, we sit high up on our deck on the ledge and watch the myriad of boats and jet skis go by. To me that’s what having a dog is all about… developing that inseparable bond that is a love that no one completely understands unless they have experienced it for themselves.

monique-gingerI do think that Pomeranians in particular have an inherent nature to be a “one on one” kind of dog. Even though Ginger loves my kids and my husband she is really primarily attached to me. I think that is above all the solitary most important characteristic of Pomeranians that attracted me to this breed in the first place. Of course their absolutely adorable, sweet little faces had nothing to do with it!  

So, two years ago, it’s our 25th wedding anniversary and my husband asks me what I would like as a present for this major milestone. Well at this stage in my life, I feel very lucky and fortunate that I have pretty much everything a girl could ask for… A great job(I’m a dermatologist and plastic surgeon)… jewelry, clothes, bags, cars…you name it… except for that one missing piece… so I dared to ask him for a pom for my 25th anniversary. He quickly reminded me of all the reasons I said I would never get a dog again and I said “I know but I’m ready now… it may be an old cliche but I truly believe it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”!

So on my 25th anniversary I got my absolutely adorable Ginger! We got her from what was advertised on the internet to be a reputable pomeranian breeder. The one thing that was truthful was the picture that they posted. When I first met Ginger she was exactly what I had wanted… petite, beautiful sable coat, with big black eyes and that permanent Pom smile… but this so called Pomeranian breeder was more of a puppy mill.

jet-skiThere were dozens of Pomeranians crammed into small filthy kennels that smelled of urine and feces. Right there and then I knew I had to take this sweet girl away from this horrible place and give her the beautiful life she deserved… and so it began. She is very, different than my old Spice. More of an independent spirit, a playful puppy who has her own unique personality and as the years have gone by I am developing a unique and wonderful relationship with her that I cherish everyday of my life. Pommy Mommy, you posted a very cute quote on Facebook that really struck a cord with me: “whoever said diamonds are a girls best friend never owned a Pomeranian”!!! I look forward to living whatever years Ginger and I have together… and when the time comes for us to part I promise myself I will be strong knowing that I did everything in my power to give her the best life possible.

Having my own dermatology and cosmetic surgery practice I have the ability to take Ginger to work with me.  In our building we have a non-medical portion where we do billing, keep medical records and I have a small office where Ginger stays during the day. I have it set up with her bed, all her toys, food, water and a pee pad. At lunch, I’ll go get her and take her for a long walk. Everyone in the office loves her and when they get a break they go play with her. So everyday is bring your Pomeranian to work day!